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Going Home, Again

“Let your home be your mast and not your anchor.”
— Khalil Gibran
“‘Home’ is any four walls that enclose the right person.”
— Helen Rowland
“You Can’t Go Home Again”
— 1940 novel by Thomas Wolfe

Fleeing Summer Up the ICW

We left Hollywood Florida in mid-June when temperatures and humidity make outside living unbearable. Phil and I wanted a more temperate summer, where air temperatures drop at night and we could enjoy cocktails in the cockpit without roasting. Many “snowbirds” travel between homes in New England and Florida, but few take their homes with them.

It was late in the season to start up the ICW, and we knew it would be hot well into North Carolina. Our boat has air conditioning, but only if we are plugged in to a dock. We can also run A/C on the generator when we’re at anchor, but that can be annoying to others in the anchorage and makes it hard to sleep.

I took a week off to visit my sons and grandson in New Hampshire, leaving Phil at Titusville Marina where he could monitor rocket launches from the boat. So, we didn’t really get started until mid-July. We spent time with close friends in Melbourne, and four days in St. Augustine – one of our favorite ports – as I waited for shipment of a cancer drug I needed. Our amazing and generous friends there loaned us a car so we could pick up the package at St. Brendan’s Isle, an address cruisers know well.

Our mailing service, St. Brendan’s Isle. This is our address, but not where we live.

The slow passage through “the ditch,” as the ICW is called, took weeks. It was hot, but the waterway winding through the wilderness in Georgia and the Carolinas is stunning, revealing a landscape so remote our own anchor light was the only light we saw after darkness fell. Stars blazed overhead at night, the bright Milky Way a smear of starlight across the dark canopy.

Sunrise from our anchorage on the Santee River in South Carolina.

We were greeted by dolphins in anchorages so far from the ocean we wondered how in the world they got there. We saw egrets, ospreys and roseate spoonbills along the way, and noisy flocks of Canada geese. The spoonbills are lovely, pale pink and white like flowers. They do a strange dance when feeding, swaying their heads back and forth in the shallow water.

There were tall white shorebirds that could be Great Egrets or Great Blue Herons in white phase. (You have to see their leg color to tell the difference.) Dolphins seemed to swim with us unseen, just popping above the surface to delight us now and then at sunrise or just as we were dropping the anchor. Sometimes they had little ones with them, just two or three feet long.

In Hilton Head, they warned us about alligators. In North Carolina, we saw one in the Pungo River.

Catmandu cruised through the quiet and lovely Waccamaw River, reminding me of Kipling’s “great gray-green greasy Limpopo River, all set about with fever trees.1” We didn’t love Morehead City Yacht Basin, but it was quiet compared to Mile Hammock anchorage, where giant military Osprey helicopters took off and landed in a deafening roar every ten minutes until midnight, looking like giant angry grasshoppers. The next day the calm of Adams Creek made up for it. We stopped at Oriental Inn and Marina, and made an appearance on their Facebook page.

We showed up in a Facebook post for the Oriental Inn and Marina.

Going north through the lock at Great Bridge, we were one of only three boats and planted a Catmandu sticker on the bumper piling. With ICW Mile 0 behind us, we headed through Norfolk listening to one very loud man on the radio yelling at boaters to slow down in the no wake zone. Weather turned windy and rainy at the mouth of the Chesapeake, pinning us in Deltaville for three days. 

I have to admit, we were a little cold approaching the Chesapeake.

At Home in Annapolis

We arrived in Annapolis near the end of August. It was unusually cool. We had been wearing our sweatshirts since North Carolina and loved the fall in the air. Good friends from Fort Lauderdale took us to the airport the next day so we could fly down to retrieve our car and return with it on the Autotrain, an experience that deserves its own blog. Then, a week later, we were flying to Greece for a Catamaran sailing adventure with many friends, another blog. We didn’t have a chance to miss home; we were moving too fast for that.

Living in our boat on the hard was like living in a treehouse.

The boat work didn’t start when it should have, and Catmandu (our real home) was still up on stands when we arrived back at the Port Annapolis boatyard. We stayed in a hotel for a week, then moved aboard, entering and exiting via a stepladder to the cockpit.

“It’s like living in a treehouse,” Phil observed. A week later, the boat work was done (the credit cards were severely abused), and we were finally back at home, in the water, ready to enjoy Annapolis. Our old friends gathered on our boat for docktails; we attended the Seven Seas Cruising Association (SSCA) gam2; worked in the SSCA booth at the Annapolis Boat Show; and made new friends. It was almost too “social” for me, but we felt a sense of belonging. It would be hard to leave.

Going Home to NH

New Hampshire is where I’ve spent the most time in my adult life, and where my older son lives with his wife and my grandchild, Lucas. We headed north for a long weekend visit on the occasion of Lucas’s first birthday. How could I resist?

I couldn’t stand to miss my grandson’s first birthday. Here’s Lucas with mom, Maeghan and my son, Anthony.

After a brief visit with my sister Janet in Connecticut, we drove through Vermont in mid-October, with the orange, yellow and red leaves of autumn on full display through the Green and White Mountains. I will never tire of this; fall in New England smells like hot apple cider and wood fireplaces. Leaves crunched underfoot as we walked through the orange woods to a clear, cold lake on a sunny Saturday morning.

“I hate to say it,” I said to Phil as we were heading south again, “But this feels like home to me.”

A visit to see family in NH made me realize how much I missed the ideal October.

I cried silently the morning we left, hoping Phil didn’t notice as he drove down I-93 back to Maryland. We both knew winter would come eventually and neither one of us wanted to shovel snow or drive in it – or endure the freezing cold. Still, the sadness of leaving stayed with me for miles.

Going Home, Again

We spent just over 60 days at Port Annapolis Marina, enough to realize it was a place that welcomed boaters, specifically sailors, and a place where we could easily be at home. We have friends there and it is just a day’s drive from family. Plus, it has everything a live-aboard cruiser could want: peaceful rivers and coves to explore, a community of like-minded people, and a whole world of boat repair specialists. Perfect! Except, it also has Winter.

It was 7:20 on a chilly October morning in Annapolis when our beloved friends Dan and Jaye helped us cast off our lines. They took pictures as we left the dock and wished us well on our voyage home — that word again.

Catmandu, leaving Annapolis.

We were back on Catmandu, with its new coat of bottom paint and freshly repaired rudder and cutless bearing. We flew away from Annapolis with full sails out, speeding down the Chesapeake on a perfect day of sailing – wind on the beam, sunny skies, no engine on. It was, as Phil pointed out, the best and longest day of pure sailing we’ve ever had on our boat. We made it all the way to Solomon’s Island and burned maybe a tablespoon of diesel.

Now, we are heading south and fleeing winter. Our destination, Fort Lauderdale, may or may not be home, but it is a place where we settled years ago, had jobs, joined a sailing club, and still have many friends. It’s the location named on the transom of the boat, our hailing port.

“So, where’s home?” people ask us when we meet at a marina or an anchorage. We usually look at each other because we don’t know the answer. Phil grew up in Minnesota; his family is there. I grew up all over the country; my family is scattered. Instead of explaining our complicated concepts of home, we blurt out whatever we are feeling at the time: Minneapolis, New Hampshire, Fort Lauderdale. Or, the best explanation:

“We live on our boat.”

Home is not always where the anchor drops. Home is where people who love you are sorry when you leave and delighted when you return. By that definition, we are blessed to have many homes: some we visit briefly and return to often, and some we visit rarely and treasure with our whole hearts. For me, home is where Phil is, on Catmandu, the home we bring with us.

Phil, at home on Catmandu.

Notes

  1. From Rudyard Kipling’s Just So Stories, “The Elephant’s Child,” a favorite bedtime story
    my father read to my sisters and me. ↩︎
  2. Gam: A gathering of sailors to exchange news, information, and experiences. It’s three days of seminars, social events, and sharing. ↩︎

Dinghy Drama and Docktails

Friends come and go, like the waves of the ocean,
but the true ones stay like an octopus on your face.

– Anonymous

Clearing In

Fifteen minutes after Phil left to check in to the Bahamas, he was back. “What happened,” I asked. “They won’t let us in?”

“I need $75 in cash,” he said. “It’s overtime for Immigration officials.” It was 4 pm on a Saturday, and if you arrive on a weekend, you pay the officials for their overtime – and not by credit card. When he returned 30 minutes later, we were legal. We raised the Bahamas flag on Catmandu and put away the yellow Q flag.

Raising the Q flag as we entered Bimini waters.

At Blue Water Marina, we were docked next to a large working boat that had old tires hung around its entire deck. The workers yelled loudly to each other and to friends on shore, with lots of laughter and good-natured teasing. Phil called the shouting “Bahamian VHF,” as yelling (beginning at 6:30am) seems to be their main method of communication.

Catmandu at Blue Water Marina

Farther down the dock, a large motor yacht played U.S. country music at top volume nonstop, whether anyone was on board or not. By the third day, Phil had had enough. He politely asked them to please turn it down and they did. But there was nothing we could do about the late-night bar a half mile away that blared unbearably loud music until well past 2 am.  It was deafening. The marina office was sympathetic, but said it was a “licensed establishment,” so there was nothing they could do.

Internet Woes

Our next few days were spent trying to get wi-fi and internet services without spending a fortune. For various reasons, we don’t have StarLink on board, so we rely on our iPhone hotspots, a small Verizon mobile hotspot, and generally poor marina wi-fi. Our single sideband radio is good in remote locations for checking in with other cruising boats, and – when we can hear it – Chris Parker’s weather broadcast.

Phil on the single sideband, checking in from the Bahamas for the first time.

Phil hiked to the store and bought a BTC SIM card to use in the mobile hotspot, but it is apparently not fully unlocked, and problems started right away. He could use the card in his cell phone, but that meant he no longer had his U.S. phone number. After spending $100 on wi-fi bandwidth that kept running out, he had to go back to the store for some answers. We wound up putting my phone on an international plan with Verizon, and using that for our internet access. It’s all very confusing to me, and I generally use the marina wi-fi when it works. I am writing this offline, to be uploaded later.

Dinghy Rides

We are living in an aquarium. The water is clear and visibility is amazing. We can sit on the boat and watch tarpon and rays swimming next to us, including one baby ray that was only about a foot long. One large nurse shark hovers beneath the dock. We have wanted to take the dinghy out for some snorkeling, but conditions have not been great. The harbor is rough from a period of high winds, and the one day we managed to beach the dinghy, I sat on it to keep it from washing away in the surf while Phil swam and snorkeled. (He followed two enormous tarpons that day!)

Phil swimming and snorkeling near the entrance to Bimini Harbor.

When the waters calmed, we ventured out by dinghy to explore the rest of our neighborhood and check out an anchorage at the north end of the harbor. We motored through a little tunnel into the Resorts World Bimini property (the tunnel of love, Phil said) and remembered staying at this luxury hotel a few years ago. Behind us, we heard the  rumble of a sea plane landing and watched as it descended onto the water and motored away.

The anchorage we were looking for beyond the resort was ugly, with construction along the shore, no sandy beaches for dinghy access, and no palm trees. The water was murky and very shallow. One star, not recommended. There were five boats anchored there, mostly small sailboats that looked well lived-in. Was this workforce housing?

Phil exploring Bimini by dinghy.

Seaplane Scares

On the way back, we encountered two more seaplanes that landed in front of us and let customers off at Fisherman’s Village. Each plane carried around 12 passengers. We watched as the first one passed by us, went farther down the small waterway, and began to turn around. I heard Phil swear and gun the outboard, quickly getting our dinghy to the side. The seaplane was headed right for us at increasing speed.

“They always take off into the wind,” Phil yelled over the sound of the engines. As we tried to get out of the way in the narrow channel, the plane sped by us and lifted into the sky. It was a close call. The second plane was gearing up behind us so we quickly got off of the airstrip and headed back to our boat.

The seaplane taking off too close to our dinghy!

In between dinghy explorations, we walked to Radio Beach and stopped at Coconut Brian’s, a quirky beach bar with large multicolored cloth triangles overhead instead of a roof. The music was deafening, but when we asked, they did turn it down (a little). And it was good reggae/island music, so we sat at the bar and enjoyed the local beer. They let us put up a Catmandu sticker. If you visit Bimini, be sure to look for our stickers at the tiki bars.

Phil displaying our Catmandu sticker and a Kalik at Coconut Brian’s.
Our sticker at Bimini Big Game Club.

Brown’s Marina

Walking along the road can be treacherous, with scooters, cars and golf carts all trying to navigate the narrow pavement. They supposedly drive on the left here, but they mostly drive in the middle. We went out one afternoon looking for a restaurant and found Brown’s Marina. The restaurant, Big Johns, was closed. Some restaurants are only open when a cruise ship is in port.

Big John’s, restaurant and bar next to Brown’s Marina.

We found the dockmaster, Christian, and talked about moving the boat to save some money. He told us he was running a $250/week special so we jumped on that and decided to move to Brown’s from Blue Water. Because moving day was so spectacular, we thought we would go out for a day sail just for fun. Christian told us to report for the dock at high tide, because currents were strong and dangerous. So we sailed out of the harbor and just for fun, sailed around in a big circle just outside of Bimini. People following us on No Foreign Land wondered what we were doing, making circles in the ocean.

Our crazy route on No Foreign Land shows our day sail off of Bimini.

Getting back in proved to be difficult, as Brown’s Marina didn’t answer our radio calls and our phone calls dropped out until we got close. We had to kill some time by circling close to the harbor entrance and noticed other boats doing the same. When we got through to the dockmaster, he advised waiting another half hour, so we motored south along the coast of South Bimini.

We motored along the pretty coast of South Bimini.

Finally, on VHF Channel 16, a loud call came through: “All boats docking at Brown’s Marina, come now!” I have never heard this before, but we became part of a mass docking of three large sailboats and a million-dollar motor yacht. Phil made a perfect landing into the slip as dockhands rushed around handling lines for all the new boats. They collected credit cards and paperwork right at the dock, and we were home.

Docktails

One of the great joys of cruising is meeting people who become instant friends. We were docked between a 40-foot monohull named Destiny, and a luxury yacht that looked brand new, named Valiansea. Phil noticed the latter boat hailed from Annapolis, and started a conversation with the owners. As so often happens in marinas all over the cruising world, we discovered we had mutual friends. Our close friends Dan and Jaye were dockmates of Phyllis and Bill in Port Annapolis Marina.

Friends of friends become friends.

For the next four days, all of our new friends gathered on the dock at 5pm for Docktails, or migrated to the shady yard next to Big John’s. Two other couples from the sailboats next to us joined in, and the eight of us bonded quickly over drinks, talking about cruising plans, wind predictions, diesel filters, health issues, and every other common theme among boaters.

 As the windy weather cleared, the boats began to depart and soon we were left alone. It was a lonely feeling after days of camaraderie with so many wonderful dockmates. We were sailing north, and others were going west or east so our weather windows were different. We missed them: Deb and Jeff on Destiny, Dave and Susanne on Kolibri, and Phyllis and Bill on Valiansea. Fair winds, wherever you are – we will see you again.

Our friends on Valiansea left us at daybreak as the sun rose.

A new sailboat came in next to us with netting around the lifelines and as I was about to ask if they had dogs or kids, a small boy popped out of the companionway. I smiled and waved, and another boy popped out, a few years older. Then another, and another. Four little boys and their parents were cruising in a 30-foot sailboat. “You are brave people,” I called out.

“Brave or crazy?” the father called back.

The Hermit Crab

On our last afternoon in Bimini, we took the dinghy to the sand bar that appears at low tide across the harbor. Two small islands sit just beyond the shallow area, and we dragged our dinghy onto the sand to explore the clear waters. I hoped no one was watching as I tumbled awkwardly over the side (I must practice my dismount). We were alone in the bright sunshine and cool breeze, and walked along looking into the seagrass that grew just beyond the sandbar.

On the sandbar, Bimini Harbor.
Phil enjoying a G&T on a Bimini sandbar.

Two small rays the color of sand swam up to Phil’s toes and quickly turned away. I tried to follow and get a picture but they were too fast. Phil pointed out a conch shell that was rocking back and forth in about two inches of water. It reminded me of the giant statues on Easter Island that were walked along a path by rocking, moving forward with each sway. Phil picked up the shell and discovered a hermit crab inside.

Turn up the sound for Phil’s commentary.

“There you are, little buddy,” he said, looking into the shell at the little eyes staring out. He gently put the shell back. Phil took a video of the crab rocking through the water with his house on his back. Conch shells are heavy, I thought, a big burden for a little crab.

The next day, we were off to our next port of call, heading north to Grand Bahama Island, to find new friends or connect with old ones. Not unlike the little hermit crab, we pilot our home through the clear water, rocking back and forth as we move forward. 

So long, little buddy.

Crossing the Gulf Stream

It simply isn’t an adventure worth telling if there aren’t any dragons.

— J. R. R. Tolkien

Sailing South

Clang!

It was only 7:45am on a Friday morning, and the marina was quiet, so our small collision sounded pretty loud. Phil had gotten up early and disconnected the hose and the electrical cables, and because it was so calm, he had released the starboard lines. Our boarding stepladder and dock rug were locked in the Prius, which sat covered up in the parking lot.

I stood at the bow to release the port bow line, ready with a boat pole to fend off our neighbor boats in the narrow channel. The engine purred. But as Phil struggled to get the boat cleanly out of the slip, it veered sideways and clanged the anchor of our friend Les’s boat. “I hope we didn’t wake you,” I wrote to him later, “It was just a little goodbye kiss.”

 Phil said it was his worst undocking ever but it would have been fine if I were quicker to fend off. I had left lines on the deck that tripped me up as I tried to hurry over with the boat pole. Learned a lesson: keep the deck clear of hazards, even when just pulling out of your slip.

Finally on our way!

Defiant against superstition, we were starting our three-month cruise to the Bahamas on a Friday. It was a calm, clear day and we were only going as far as Miami in preparation for crossing the Gulf Stream to Bimini on Saturday. Boats like ours generally depart from a point to the south of their destination to compensate for the northerly push of the mighty Gulf Stream.

Heading out into the Intracoastal Waterway, Phil called the first bridge to request an opening and we easily made the 8 o’clock lift, then raced toward two more bridges and made their 8:15 and 8:30 lifts, with the last bridge-tender holding the bridge open for a full five minutes to let us pass.

As we motored into the turning basin at Port Everglades, I noted our speed at 6.4 knots. Phil said, “This is the calmest I’ve ever seen it out here.” It is usually a washing machine full of small and large power boats kicking up huge wakes, but this was something else.

Phil went forward to attach the lifeline as we left Port Everglades.

There was no wind for sailing so we turned south and started a smooth ride on quiet seas. With current in our favor, we saw 6.9 knots on the speedometer and motored toward our anchorage at No Name Harbor. Our weather router, Chris Parker, had predicted a mild crossing for the following day, so we were planning to be there just one night.

No Name Harbor, marked by 35 on the chart.

As we neared Miami, we saw the color of the ocean change from sapphire to aqua. Bright afternoon sun lit up the Cape Florida Lighthouse on the southeastern tip of Key Biscayne as we rounded the cape. We were in no need of the wind protection of No Name Harbor, so we anchored outside in 14 feet of water. The anchor was down at 2:15pm. We lunched on grapes and pretzels, took a rest, and watched the sun go down. We were on our way.

Phil at anchor just south of No Name Harbor, Key Biscayne.

First sunset from our anchorage south of Key Biscayne.

Sailing East

Phil was up early and out on deck when I joined him at 6:45am. He started the engine and I took the helm as he raised the anchor. Other boats in the anchorage were heading out, too, as this was the best crossing conditions in the next week. The big catamarans headed due east, not the southerly heading we were advised to take.

It was cool and clear, a calm and gorgeous sunny day. With the autopilot engaged, Phil went below to make a pot of coffee. After coffee and breakfast bars, we motored east southeast into the rising sun. I was on dolphin and turtle watch, but didn’t see any. Phil spotted a turtle (“Turtle pop!”), but from experience I knew only the first observer sees the turtle, they pop up and dive so fast.

Kay at the helm as we motor out past Cape Florida.

The cities of Miami and Miami Beach got shorter in our rear view, and we talked about how Columbus and early sea explorers guessed the world was round because they could see the tops of the masts of the boats coming in from the sea before the hulls. I could still see the tops of the Miami Beach skyscrapers as they faded into the distance behind us.

At around 9:30, we felt the offshore breeze strengthening and put out the jib. It flapped around a little at first, but as the wind filled in, the sail ballooned out and quieted. The boost from the sail put our speed back up to 6 kts. Our bearing at 125 degrees (see chart, below) seemed to push us too far south so Phil changed course to 120 degrees and the sail pulled us along, steadying the boat.

From Bahamas Land and Sea, by Addison Chan, showing recommended bearings to offset the Gulf Stream’s northerly flow.

By noon we were out of sight of land, a first for us on this boat. There was nothing but flat, gray ocean in all directions. It was eerily calm with light winds, and if this was the typical crossing, we had nothing to worry about. Our weather routing service called the conditions “mild,” and we concur. We think now it was actually extraordinary.

Here is our route, as shown on NoForeignLand. Click the link to follow our journey.

On our chart plotter, we have an AIS system that broadcasts our position and alerts us of ships in the area. Suddenly, AIS said we were on a collision course with a gigantic ship coming from the north, a monster of 293 meters – nearly 1,000 feet. Being on their right, it was up to us to avert, but they changed course for us. They didn’t have to, but I’m sure these captains can’t rely on pleasure boat captains to know the rules the way we do. They turned slightly to starboard and passed our stern, without contacting us.

Gigantic ship passed us, altering course to avert a collision.

We changed our course bearing from 120 to 108 degrees magnetic by the compass when Phil determined that we were four miles south of the rhumb line, our charted route to the entrance of Bimini Harbor. Our guideline was a little extreme for the force of the Gulf Stream. It did push us north but not by that much. Is the Gulf Stream weakening? Some oceanographers and meteorologists warn of dire consequences if it does.

At 1:40 Phil saw Bimini at a distance of 12 miles. “We are 3/4 of the way,” he said. “I think we are going to make it!”

Approaching Bimini, in clear aqua water.

The water soon turned to a brilliant aqua blue, and even with 50 feet of depth, we could see the bottom. The shore was sandy and full of beach goers, and the entrance was so shallow and close to shore, I thought we would end up on the beach. The sand bar obstructing the passage is well marked on the chart and does have navigation markers. Unfortunately, the channel is also marked as an anchorage, so we had to dodge anchored boats.

Phil, about to raise the yellow quarantine flag for the first time. It was so calm, he is not using the jackline and tether.

Our biggest problem coming in to the marina was communication. We had a reservation at Blue Water Marina but not a slip assignment. The marina did not answer VHF channel 16 or 68. We finally called on the phone, and they said to call on channel 68. We kept trying as Phil navigated very shallow water (7 ½ feet at one point) into the harbor.

Finally we got an answer: Switch to 71. Then we could not understand the Dockmaster at all. We finally arrived at the marina and he yelled, “Wait one minute,” then gestured where to dock. He barked orders at us in a thick Bahamian accent and we did our best to follow his directions for line placement. “Line” sounded like “one.” “Midship” sounded like “Me-shit” and “pull you” sounded like “poo-you.” Phil said it didn’t help that the dockmaster was sadly missing several (many) teeth. But Phil pulled Catmandu into the slip like the pro that he is, and we were tied up by 4 pm.

Catmandu tied up at Blue Water Marina.

No Dragons

The crossing of oceans is beyond our dreams right now, and we have no desire to cruise around the world. Venturing across the passage from Miami to Bimini, navigating the famously volatile Gulf Stream, proved to be an experience of calm waters and gentle breezes, not a wild adventure worthy of bragging rights. There were no rogue waves, no hurricane-force winds, no dragons. Not even one dolphin. But we were proud of ourselves.

“We made it,” I said, as we relaxed in the cockpit for a minute. It was a moment of anticlimax.

“I guess I should go find Customs and Immigration,” said Phil, “And make us legal.”

So off he went on foot into the wild narrow streets of Bimini – passports and documents in hand – to make it all legal.